I have come to the conclusion as a single lady that I cannot win every battle in life. These battles I talk of are not the battles in a so-called relationship but the battles that come forth with married friends and their children. I have many married friends as well as many married friends with children. These friends of mine have a newly adopted lifestyle that can be tough to balance with their single counterparts. And this is where another singledom battle begins.

I am aware of my very single lifestyle and how it may be different from that of my married friends with families. But what I do not understand is why marriage and children have to change this friendship between two people. Why is that married friends with families make less time for their single friends? As a single lady it is hard to be brushed aside in a relationship with a good friend who has a child. The battle worsens when you have known this person for quite some time. And yet Mrs. Family Oriented does not grasp the fact that you are willing to not only make time for them but you also want to spend some quality time with them.

As a single lady it is a hard concept to grasp and it is definitely a tough one to let go. But being the single lady in society filled with married coupledom I have to accept these so called changes my married friends with families bring to the table. I understand they are busy taking care of their family all the time. With this being said, the single lady must rearrange her schedule to accompany the world non-existent to them … the married coupledom world.

So one evening while making dinner I got to thinking about the energy and effort put into these relationships with my married counterparts. As I took a sip of my wine I realized this battle is never going to end. I decided to throw in the towel and accept their new lifestyle hoping they would still make time for me some where down the road. This was not something worth battling over anymore and seeing the towel was already on the ground there was no way I was picking it up anytime soon. I got to thinking again, maybe when I finally settle down and start a family I will truly understand all of the sacrifices one makes in their new world of married coupledom. Until then I will remain the single lady in the city enjoying every fabulous moment that comes my way when I do get to spend time with my married counterparts.

To all the single ladies, it is time to throw in the towel and know your married counterparts do want to spend time with you but will be a challenge for them with their new commitment to family. When they do make time be prepared to drop everything because, according to some, us single ladies require little to no planning in life. We can do what we want when we want. And if this means we accommodate our singledom schedules to fit the married coupledom schedules then we do it without a battle because some battles are not worth fighting over.

Let me know how you feel about being a single lady in the Twin Cities below.

Lindsay Conrad
OLSON Interactive Coordinator
Lconrad@oco.com
Sports Enthusiast & Runner
Proud Single Lady!